Can I get a NOT, NOT?  It completely sucks!  It’s already the end of summer break and already time to go back to those dreaded four walls that hold us captive for months and months.  But I get it, the learning must continue and our minds have to grow, but it also means a stress-fest for us middle-graders that can lead to the worst loser feelings ever.

Let’s talk recess.  We know adults made recess to get a break from us kids, but besides that, adults say recess is important for daily physical activity, breathing in the fresh poop-free air outside, and of course, for the much-needed brain breaks.  Well, that’s great and all, but did any of them get the message that recess is a full court press of pressure for us kids?
Yeah, it’s awesome to get our play on, but nowadays, showing up is not enough.  You got to show up and win if you’re going to be anyone on the blacktop. If your game is weak, those playground looks will let you know it, and that’s when those loser feelings will start to kick in.  And if that’s not bad enough, the pressure of getting picked to be a part of a game or just being included at all in a group conversation is seriously intense.  This, two times a day, multiplied by a gazillion school days, can make an MG’s life miserable.

But I get it and I got your back!  So, here are 5 ways to face recess like a boss:

1.  If you find during recess you suck at everything and you’re totally uncoordinated, don’t sulk about it and don’t make excuses because that’s       just lame.  Remember, you’re still a kid with a ton of time to get better at any recess game that’s thrown your way, and if you don’t improve, smile and cheer for the next guy.  It’s all about having fun and not taking yourself so seriously.  And if you still feel bad, practice at home like a maniac to get better because even the smallest upgrade to your skill pack is enough to make you feel better about yourself.
2. If you find yourself being excluded from games during recess, be the one to start the game or introduce a new one.  That way it will be almost impossible to be left out.
3.  If you’re not included during recess, shrug it off and be prepared to do your own thing – like bring your own basketball and practice your ball-handling skills, catch up on some reading with a book, magazine or comic, or, dare I say it…get your homework done!  There’s no shame in killing it in the classroom!   
4.  Join an extracurricular club that meets during recess, volunteer for your teacher, librarian or any other school official during recess time.  It may sound like a wimp move but who the heck cares!  You’ll save yourself from that horrible feeling that may drag you down for the rest of the day, month or even the year if losing and feeling left out is a daily occurrence.
5.  Have all types of friends.  What do I mean?  I mean, don’t exclude peeps just because they may be horrific athletes, or because the music they listen to might make your ears bleed, and definitely don’t exclude them because they act, dress or look totally different than you.  That’s just rude!  Do this, and you’ll likely always have a friend close by to turn that bad recess into a great one!


Want to add to my list?  Cool.  Send me a message you think could help the next MG.



I know you adults have had a longer losing life than us middle graders and you all probably have a truckload of issues from it, but right now I’ve got to focus on my squad, my fam, my MG massive.  We are the future, and it’s important for us to be prepared to stand strong when losses knock us down. So, if you’re a parent reading this blog and you have a middle-grader who has a hard time when he or she loses, direct them to The Loser Blog so they can take charge of their own life.


A Little About Me:
I work from home grinding it out as a mother, wife, author, party planner, and blogger. My family inspires me and creativity drives me.

I created The Loser Blog for middle-grade students, from a middle-grade perspective, but the tips and suggestions can be useful to individuals of all ages, especially to parents who struggle to find ways to help their kids deal with failure in all aspects of their life.

While I’m obviously not a middle schooler, I’ve had two children already go through it, one currently in it, nieces and nephews with tons of stories about it, plus my own experiences can account for endless tales, both good and bad, regarding it.

Other facts about me…I like to think I’m athletic since my husband and kids are (but I’m not), I prefer cleaning over cooking, and I have an unusual addiction to carrots (not the baby ones, they have to be full grown). Mmmm, yummy beta-carotene!


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